It is no secret to the people who know me, that I have not led a charmed life. I grew up poor, with an alcoholic father and a mother who took off when I was five and left me to take care of said alcoholic father. Thankfully, as much of a failure as he was at many aspects in his own life, he was a great dad. He taught me how to survive and thrive in this world even if he couldn't do the same. "Shit happens" was his favorite saying and I needed to learn that and did learn that at a very young age. I learned how to get through the tough times and come back stronger than ever.
Maybe this is why I piss off people who have not been taught the reality of life. The people that think bad things couldn't and shouldn't happen to them, and don't know how to deal when it does. The funny thing is, as much as these people don't want to deal with bad things in there life, they tend to go out of their way to create chaos. I have no sympathy for them and that's all they really want when they are crying about this, that and everything.
If this was a friend or acquaintance I would merely not talk to them anymore. But what do you do when it's your family...by marriage? I've already limited my interaction with my own family and now I realize that my husband's family is no bed of roses either. Drama Queens run rampant in his family. Mainly his mother and his little sister. Two peas in a pod those two are.
So how do you deal with folks that are not only Drama Queens, but insist on creating situations in which you are supposed to feel sorry for them or turn situations around to make you look like the bad guy when you said what they didn't want to hear? I am an extremely sympathetic person to people who have found themselves in less than ideal situations. I am there to listen and to advise if they so ask for those things. But when you are the cause of your own misery and you want me to listen and then give you advise....you are barking up the wrong tree crazy person!
I will be nice, I will even listen and then, all you're going to get is what you don't want to here...THE TRUTH. If you don't want to here the truth then don't talk to me. I'm not here to help you carry on this fantasy you have made up in your head, where you're the victim and everyone should feel sorry for you.
Unfortunately, when the Drama Queens are family, and worse, family by marriage, things get a tad more frustrating and bunch more sticky. And no matter how much you want to be left alone, they are not going to let it go until you move out of state (which is what I did with my family) or you concede that they are right. And that's sure not happening in my house.
So, any and all Drama Queens be warned....You will not get sympathy, consoling or even an agreeing head nod! Do not come to me with your BS because you will only get the TRUTH and the truth ain't pretty!
